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Born-Again Christians a Potential Threat to Mental Health Sufferers (2)

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In our last blog in this series, we looked at how Joyce, an elder of her church, introduced a victim of sexual crime who was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder to a “so-called” Christian counselor, the latter telling the afflicted woman that “God had given her this burden to work through”. As I discussed previously, this is a cruel and untrue statement, but to say such things to a person who is distressed and struggling under an enormous load is nothing short of sadistic. And yet these misguided “Christians continue to have the arrogance to believe that they can cure … Continue reading →

When Your Therapist Does Harm (2)

In When Your Therapist Does Harm (1) (see link below) we looked at the possibility that some therapists may actually cause further harm in their already distressed patients and clients. This harm usually comes in the form of instigating a sexual relationship with their client. As previously mentioned, it is imperative that for therapy to work there is a good rapport between therapist and client. In fact, therapy will stall without it. But occasionally, due to the intimate nature of therapy, a client may become infatuated with their therapist. This customarily happens between a male therapist and a female client, … Continue reading →

Does Your Doctor Not Understand Mental Illness?

I am often frustrated when one of my clients goes to see their doctor for a physical ailment and is basically dismissed, or at best, condescended to, simply because they have a record of mental illness, either past or present. It seems that once you have suffered from depression or anxiety, or worse still, one of the major mental illnesses, every little twinge, whether it be in your stomach or your big toe, is often put down to a symptom of mental illness. Yes, they will tell you that “It’s all in your mind, dear.” I once had a patient … Continue reading →

Poll Says Poor Parenting to Blame for Violent Behavior

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When kids turn to violence, often the parents are blamed. The recent violence in Virginia has many people pointing fingers. A recent poll by the Family Education Network shows that 32% of respondents blame “poor parenting and problems at home”, as the factor most responsible for school shootings. Other reasons were: 15% cited mental illness or copycatting 18% felt easy access to guns and/or violent media images was to blame 20% said that God is missing from the classroom 15% blamed trouble with teachers and classmates Being a parent is hard and it’s sad that some people blame the parent … Continue reading →

Planning Ahead For A Successful Transfer Of The Family Business

The heirlooms that pass from one generation to the next vary greatly between families. One family may cherish a clock, some china, and a set of silver while another may have an antique dining room set and some framed portraits that have been handed down over the years. Some families pass an even more complex legacy on to their children – a family business. Family businesses can be a wonderful asset to present and future generations. They can also be the source of much distress, if no one in the family seems interested in continuing the business or of there … Continue reading →

Military Dogs Developing PTSD

As all human American troops leave Iraq, one special group continues to deploy: K-9 units. These dogs have a special role in the country, as their noses have proven more effective at finding bombs than any technology employed. The New York Times profiles these military canines. Iraq doesn’t use sniffer dogs nearly as much as the United States, and so far they’re only used for bomb-sniffing, not to locate mines or cadavers or other common jobs for military/law enforcement dogs. Of the 310 American sniffer dogs now currently deployed in Iraq 8 are trained to find narcotics, but the rest … Continue reading →

Mental Health and Young Black Men

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While working in the prison system in Florida as a therapist over 50% of my caseload were black men. We could spend days discussing the issues contributing to that number, but in the prison I was most concerned with why the person who was sitting in front of me needed my services. Historically, black men were not “allowed” to experience mental health issues. There have been books written about the social stigma of mental illness in the black community; even simple depression is something black men were encouraged to hide. So, I was surprised by what my clients were presenting … Continue reading →

The Controversy of Bipolar Disorder

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As I was reading through older blogs to see what has been covered I came across one on bipolar that caught my eye. Bipolar has become an interesting phenomenon in the mental health world. It used to be known as “Manic-Depressive Disorder” and was considered to be rare. Then the new diagnostic criteria came out, and all of a sudden I started seeing it diagnosed more and more. I started hearing “I’m Bipolar” as a reason for behaviors. Children started carrying the label, even though they truly did not meet the full diagnostic criteria. My colleagues and I started questioning … Continue reading →

“Psychic” Pets

A recent poll reported by Newser.com and conducted by The Associated Press and Petside.com concluded that many American pet owners believe that their pets are psychic or have a sixth sense on some level. The actual details vary depending on what questions people were asked. According to the poll, 2/3 of American pet owners believe that animals have a sixth sense about bad weather, and 43% of the people polled say their pets can predict bad news. Owners of both cats and dogs claimed that their feline or canine pets warned them either about poor weather or upcoming bad news. … Continue reading →

China Adoption Book Review: The Lost Daughters of China

Karin Evans is a journalist. Her book, Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls, Their Journey to America, and the Search for a Missing Past alternates between her story of adopting a one-year-old Chinese girl and her research into the circumstances leading to the abandonment of so many girls from China. (I should point out, as I’ve written before, that abandonment is not always—nor even usually in other countries—leaving a child to its fate. In countries where there are no adoption agencies helping birthparents nor laws allowing the relinquishment of babies, leaving a child in a place where she will easily … Continue reading →