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Mother-Daughter Venom

Just when you thought Spelling vs. Spelling couldn’t get any more venomous, mama Spelling pens a poisonous open letter to her famous daughter Tori in an effort to keep the war alive. Mission accomplished! I won’t re-print the note Candy Spelling had TMZ.com publish yesterday (you can read the anti-love letter in its entirety here), but I can’t help but address some of the choicer lines, as they do illustrate the essence of the mother-daughter tightrope walk and the sad legacy both women are leaving behind for their children/grandchildren. Candy begins by calling her 36-year-old daughter “middle-aged” (a pointed jab … Continue reading →

Public Mother-Daughter Feuds

Mother-daughter relationships are notoriously challenging, just ask Candy and Tori Spelling. The famous mother-daughter team has had their tightrope walk chronicled in the media for nearly 20 years, and now their war of words has hit a crescendo. Claiming she’s been banished from her daughter’s life, Candy Spelling just posted an emotional public letter to Tori, pleading with her to end their bitter feud and repair their fractured relationship. “You haven’t responded to my emails, phone calls and text messages,” the 63-year-old widow of legendary TV producer Aaron Spelling wrote on her website. “You say you look at my website, … Continue reading →

Walking the Mother-Daughter Tightrope (1)

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When a mother gives birth to a baby girl, there is potential for a tremendously strong bond to develop. Having a female child allows a mother to re-experience her own growing-up process, this time though the eyes of an adult. We mothers can see first hand the joy our children of both genders experience as they explore the world and gradually take charge of their own lives. But the mother-daughter bond is different. We can so clearly see ourselves in our own daughter as she grows up: playing girl-orientated games, choosing clothes, playing at being grown-ups, wearing your shoes, using … Continue reading →

Celebrating Mother’s Day When You Don’t Like Your Mom

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You can’t miss the occasion of Mother’s Day. Advertisers refuse to let us. Wherever we turn we are bombarded with loving images of mothers and babies selling giftware from flowers to facials, and everything in between. But what happens if you don’t like your Mom? There is a huge societal rule that says “everyone loves their mom”. This is so imbedded in our psyche that to admit that you don’t actually like your mother often results in surprised looks, sounds of disbelief or even a lecture. “How could you not like your mother?” the naïve, lucky ones say. Sure, mothers … Continue reading →

Walking the Tightrope of the Mother-Daughter Relationship (1)

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When a mother gives birth to a baby girl, there is potential for a tremendously strong bond to develop. Having a female child allows a mother to re-experience her own growing-up process, this time though the eyes of an adult. We mothers can see first hand the joy our children of both genders experience as they explore the world and gradually take charge of their own lives. But the mother-daughter bond is different. We can so clearly see ourselves in our own daughter as she grows up: playing girl-orientated games, choosing clothes, playing at being grown-ups, wearing your shoes, using … Continue reading →

On Raising a Son Alone

It is hard enough for a single mom to raise a daughter single-handedly, but what do you do with a son. You want to teach him all the masculine aspects of being a boy, however, that is difficult to do when you are a female and do not even know how to do it. “Preparing Him for the Other Woman: A Mother’s Guide to Raising Her Son to Love a Wife and Lead His Family” by Sheri Rose Shepherd guides mothers on how to teach her son to have a tender heart toward women incorporating respect, love, honor, faithfulness, responsibility … Continue reading →

Maybe This Is Not the Right Time to Talk About It

Many of us assume that communication with our children is about what we say and how we say it and while this IS important, it is not all there is to good communication. In fact, it might not be what you are saying but WHEN you are trying to say it. There really is a right and wrong time to talk about things. Waiting for the right time might make it more likely that your child will hear what you have to say and good communication will occur. There is definitely something to be said for tact and timing in … Continue reading →

Having Trouble Talking to Your Teen: Try the Car!

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How common is it to have a problem with some aspect of your teen’s behavior and be told to sit down and have a good heart-to-heart with them? And how often has it ended in a screaming match and a series of slammed doors? Well, if it wasn’t common I wouldn’t be writing this article! It is important to talk to your growing teen about difficulties you are experiencing with them. Yet even with all the best intentions, it can be very frustrating if not outright difficult to do so. But it must be done if anything is to be … Continue reading →

What Kind of Relationship do You Want to Have with Your Kids in the Long Run?

We can get so caught up in the minutia of every day—those details of feeding, cleaning, discipline and communicating—that we forget to keep at least one eye on the long term. The choices we make today, and the way we parent and interact with our children right now will have a lasting influence on the type of relationship we have with them in the long term. While we really need to parent our children as they are today, it can be helpful to put some thought into what we would like our relationship with our child to look like 5, … Continue reading →

Communication Breakdown? It Might Be That You are TOO MUCH Alike

Similarities with our kids can be wonderful—there is nothing like recognizing some of your most cherished personal qualities in your child and seeing how he or she takes after you. But, the thing is, they don’t just get our most cherished and best-liked personal qualities, sometimes they inherit or take on some of those things about ourselves which we aren’t too pleased with. This is where I think we can run into communication problems with our children. It isn’t always that we are so different we can’t see each other’s point of view, but sometimes, we are so much alike … Continue reading →